I’ve been asked several times to explain the divine masculine and the divine feminine by friends, loved ones, and clients. As the human species continues to grow and evolve so too does our desire to find balance within ourselves. Gender is your biological make up–those physiological aspects that makes one biologically male or female–while the divine masculine and divine feminine are energetic aspects that every human being carries within him/herself.
The Divine Feminine:
The divine feminine is represented throughout many cultures in the world–Mother Mary in Christianity, St. Brigid in Celtic tradition, Isis in Egyptian mythology–and when in a healthy and balanced state it shows nurturing, creativity, intuitiveness, and essentially represents the mother. When thinking about a mother one focuses on fertility, nurturing, and healing. For centuries, because of patriarchal society, the divine feminine has essentially been quashed, but now a resurgence of the want for love and nurture has come to pass. When the divine feminine is out of balance, one may feel a lack of self-love and a lack of self-confidence. When in balance, the feminine is intuitive, wise, and loving. The main aspects of the divine feminine are creativity, fertility, compassion, empathy, love, and acceptance.
In our culture, it is looked at as though men have to be “tough” and women need to be quiet and demure. But, we all have these qualities within us. Men can and need to be loving, compassionate, and nurturing, not only to others, but also to themselves. Mental health in this country is suffering, and it may be because we are stifling energetic aspects of ourselves. If men are told to “man up” and take it, of course they will bottle up their emotions and slip into self-loathing and depression. But what would it look like if men and women were able to freely express compassion? The world would be a kinder place. If we were able to freely express our compassion and love, there would be no need for war or hate because rather than coming from fear and aggression, we would come from love and peace. However, as important as the divine feminine is for our psyche, so too is the divine masculine. You cannot have one without the other. Everything needs to be in balance.
The Divine Masculine:
The divine masculine is also represented across many cultures–Jesus in Christianity, Buddha in Buddhism, Mohammad in Islam–and shows aspects of fearlessness, courage, and loyalty. There is gentleness in the masculine’s strength and is never ego-based. The masculine is the protector of the feminine and is open to exploration of compassion and love and values sexual energy but from a loving standpoint rather than a dominating one. The divine masculine moves forward and puts ideas and thoughts into action. The masculine is open to exploration and learning new things. When out of balance the divine masculine is stagnant, afraid, and rather than exploring new things for himself, listens and believes what he is told without question.The imbalanced divine masculine will look to outside sources for happiness and will try to exert power in inappropriate ways–through ego, dominance, and anger. Sexual encounters are enjoyed but are not fulfilling in an unbalanced masculine energy.
Look at our culture now. There is a lot of unbalanced masculine energy both in males and females. Women will often look to outside sources for happiness whether in relationships or through body shaming and guilt. Many “powerful” men exert their power and abuse it to get what they desire–be it in business and/or relationships. So, how does one balance the divine masculine and feminine? How do we find harmony within ourselves so we have balanced scales of nurturing, love, and compassion with action, self-confidence, and courage?
It’s All About the Balance:
The best way to balance masculine and feminine energies is through meditation. Yoga is another great way to find balance in the masculine and feminine. Vinyasa is active and will charge your masculine qualities, while yin is a little more passive and allows you to sit in the quiet and offer nurturing to yourself. If you notice you are feeling out of balance in either aspect focus on changing that aspect before moving onto the next one. For example, if you feel you’ve been giving a lot of yourself and haven’t taken time for you, your feminine is likely stagnant. Look to massage, yin yoga, meditation on the goddess within, and self-care such as a quiet bath or time to write in a journal. If you are feeling fearful your masculine energy may be at a lull. Take time to go on a hike, a run, a bike ride, write down ideas and take the steps to put them into action–when afraid the best thing to do is act on those things you don’t think will come to fruition, even if in small ways.
We all have the divine masculine and divine feminine within. It doesn’t make one less of a woman to tap into her divine masculine, just as it doesn’t make one less of a man to tap into his divine feminine. We are all of the divine and as such have both divine energies within us. Embrace these aspects of yourself. When in balance, the two work together to heal and to make the world a kinder place.