I’m continuing the discussion about self-healing and the power of your thoughts. Many of us have been thinking the same thoughts (whether consciously or sub-consciously) for years, which in turn creates a set core belief. These both can be positive and detrimental thoughts and beliefs–“I am a smart person” or “I’m so dumb.” The beautiful thing about the human brain is its capability to “rewire and create new neural circuits at any age [which is neuroplasticity]” (Dispenza 10). What this means is even if you’ve had a thought for years, say, “I’m dumb,” you can rewire your brain into a new thought and stop it from going back to the original thought and in turn change it to a thought that serves you and boosts your confidence and the other thoughts you have about yourself.
Bringing in resolution I wanted to discuss how certain traumas–pains, sadness, relationships, etc.–can contribute to our thought patterns and how resolving these past traumas can help us rewire our brains easier and faster. Trauma has a broad definition but it can be defined as a “deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Most of us don’t like the word “trauma” because we may think that, “Well I wasn’t in a horrible natural disaster,” but in reality people experience trauma quite often. When a child’s parents divorce that is traumatic, if you were bullied that is traumatic, if you experienced living with a parent who wasn’t fully present that is traumatic. The list goes on. As children, we all internalized some of these traumas. Children often internalize because they don’t know how to voice what they feel or may be too scared to voice those feelings and so they bottle those feelings up and allow resiliency to carry them into adulthood. Once we are in adulthood we think those things like parents being divorced is normal and “wasn’t that bad” and so we shove it away even further until something or someone brings those emotions we had in the bottle up to the surface. We may cry, feel ashamed, feel angry, or even feel confused. Our thoughts may kick in and say, “What’s the matter with you? It was fine. Stop crying.” This can trigger the stress hormone to come to the surface, which can cause you to feel anxious or even sick.
So how does one deal with trauma? Looking at these memories and thoughts with curiosity allows you to feel less triggered. This means looking at the memories objectively and without judgment. “When my parents divorced, 5 year old me felt sad, confused, and I believed it was my fault.” With this in mind you may want to consider going into a meditation in which you allow your inner child to revisit those feelings that may have been stifled. In order to really heal you need to feel those emotions. This allows you to move on and let go. Then you can start rewiring your brain to a state of calmness rather than survival. In rewiring your brain you’re also helping mitigate those stress hormones that can cause illness discussed in last week’s blog.
When you can begin to release those past traumas and hurts you can begin to live in the present. If you’re living in fear and anxiety you’re either reacting to old traumas or living in anticipation of future events that may or may not happen causing your reality to be less than desirable. Being mindful in the present allows you to create the reality you want to be a part of, which ultimately changes your future and your thoughts. There a many ways to release and let go of trauma–meditation, psychotherapy, yoga, Reiki, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), massage. The common denominator in these techniques is getting your mind to a state of ease and relaxation to face those traumas and emotions. Once faced you can release them. Please join Amanda of Intuitive Nature and me for a healing meditation focusing on changing your thoughts and releasing trauma to heal.
Dispenza, Joe. Evolve Your Brain. Health Communications, Inc. 2007.