This past week has been insane, and it’s gotten me to think on how we can all better go with the flow. We all prefer to know the outcomes of our choices and know exactly how those choices will affect us and those around us, what will happen to us in the future, and how we can control our lives. But, we must admit it is rare when things turn out exactly how we visualize–sometimes they turn out better and sometimes seemingly worse. But, when they do seem to be taking a turn for the worse, that’s a time to remind ourselves to go inward and reflect. How can I make a better choice next time? What did I learn from this outcome? Did this help me grow or hinder my growth? As you reflect this helps you “go with the flow” and really let go.
It’s easier said than done, though. Our egos love to be right and control, and when we try to control every aspect of our lives, we can become frustrated and even affect our relationships negatively because, like many situations, people cannot be controlled. So, how do we let go and really allow life to carry us? For me, it’s faith. Faith that the universe, Spirit, God, Goddess (whatever name you give a higher power) has my back and even when things don’t go the way I would have liked, there has to be a better reason and I will come out better than I was before. Many times, those frustrations that take place when we are making decisions and the consequences are not what we wanted or expected are queues to us that we need to stop being overly impulsive, stop being overly controlling, and/or need to be more compassionate with ourselves and others. When acting out of love and compassion, it is much easier to let go and see where life takes us.
Letting go is a practice. You don’t have to be perfect all the time. Just like with yoga, running, and meditating you need to learn and continually practice at it. You will have easy days and days where going with the flow is more challenging and that’s ok. Those difficult days are learning experiences and are great for self-reflection. As I practice the task of letting go, I like to think of these words by the Sunni poet Rumi. While he and others with similar mantras were discussing a test or sieve to determine whether you should speak, I also feel it can be applied to your actions as well:
“Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates:
At the first gate, ask yourself “Is is true?”
At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?”
At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”
By keeping this in mind, you will act more out of love rather than ego. And in acting out of love for yourself, you will be better able to let go of those things which no longer serve you and travel with the flow of life. Love and light to you all.